بســم الله الرحمــن الرحيــم

It’s said by Qasim Rafique, ‘that a successful marriage doesn’t require a big house, a perfect spouse, a million pounds/dollars, or an expensive car. You can have all the above and still have a miserable marriage. A successful marriage requires honesty, undying commitment, and selfless love, and Allah SWT at the center of it all.’ And although materialistic items are fun to have, and to live with, they don’t define the marriage you are in, and don’t promise to truly hold the marriage together in a healthy manner. 

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It's important - if you marry the Islamic way, you do it the halal way, and here we will guide you on how to!

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1) A Nikkah is a must - this could be done privately in a mosque with the imam present - who will legalise the couple's marriage Islamically, the witnesses, and family - or you can conduct a larger party/celebration, that's all down to your preference! 

There should be mutual consent between the bride and groom for this marriage to take place, a legal guardian or representative (Wali) needs to be present, alongside two adult Muslim witnesses - they basically are there to say the bride married by will not by force.

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2) There are controversies over Mahr, which is a gift given to the bride from the groom - when making this decision, we advise you to be wise about it, don't just ask for a cat, ask for a reasonable amount of money that the groom is able to provide, and/or a trip to Hajj/Umrah for the both of you! It's truly all down to your choice. Don't forget in Islam, your money is your money, and your husband's money is both of your money!

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3) You should prepare a written marriage contract before the ceremony for you to sign as a couple - you can purchase one from Etsy, or make one yourself! (go DIY queen!).

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4) The Sunnah of the Holy Prophet Muhammed صلى الله عليه وسلم is to have a Walimah given by the groom after the marriage to celebrate the occurrence of the marriage. 

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5) Polygamy isn't an unknown topic when it comes to Islamic marriages, there are many jokes about men having four wives, but it's important to know that Islam doesn't really encourage it. You can state in your Mahr too that you don't want your husband to get another wife whilst married to you if you want to. 

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6) Marrying out your race - Islam promotes tribalism, so fight as hard as you can for your love if they're not the same race/ethnicity as you - as long as they're Muslim, nothing should stop you from being together. It's Sunnah to do so, we should live by completing acts of these acts of Sunnah for a better, prosperous life. ''We created you from a male and female, and made you into peoples and tribes so that you may get to know one another.'' [49:13]

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7) Build a home together that's full of the remembrance of Allah, in which you both remind each other of the goodness of Islam and help survive this Dunya while helping each other deen. Make a gentle home, a home full of gratefulness and gratitude in the name of Allah.

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8) By marrying, you complete half your deen. 

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For more conversations on Islamic marriage, listen to our new podcast OUT NOW ON SPOTIFY! 

Click here to hear a snippet of the first episode!

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